There is no worse feeling than being victimized, especially when the person that is victimizing you is/was your own partner. The very person that you are meant to trust. This is the person that you are meant to trust with your emotions, and your life. Of course, the sociopath did, in the beginning do all that they could to win your trust and he did. I never knew the extent of how much of a psychological nut job, until very recently though.
The sociopath is a coward, and is weak. While they are great at bullying others, and making them feel weak, they don’t particularly want to be found out for their actions. Me, the victim, is the one person who could lead to their conviction, or others finding out about who they really are. I am therefore a liability. I was threatened to keep quiet! He warned me!
This is more than deflection!
What better way to isolate me from others, than to make out that I am the abuser, and that they are the victim? This is all part and package of ‘playing victim’. The sociopath uses quite expertly, their ability to lie, and my ability to be honest and tell the truth, to cover up for their what can only be described as psychological abuse.
They move the attention elsewhere, when that person is the guilty party, to remove the finger of blame towards them. The sociopath will go one further than this. Stepping across a boundary that is so far over the boundary, is this even happening to me!
They love being in control and winning!
Life is just a game to the sociopath, and people like me ,the victim are merely a player in the game. The game would end, should their actions be discovered.
They know that they have to use fake love to manipulate you, and fear to control you. When i became angry, I become a threat and a liability.
He wants to silence me!
By accusing me of being the abuser, the sociopath already knows that they are ahead of the game. What can i say? The sociopath deliberately sets up the game so that they are covered. When they have accused you, if you retaliate and accuse them, the sociopath knows that you might not be believed, after all, they have already explained why ‘you are crazy’!