Lets talk about 💥 TENSION 💥
Hi! Do you sometimes find yourself as the referee in a MMA match between two of your kids? •
First things first: This is totally normal and to be expected, especially when kids are always in close quarters. •
Do, what should you do when these little fights break out?
1) stay calm yourself. Count down from 7 if you need to before interfering.
2) ask each child what caused their behavior? “No one can make you mad.” Most of the time, it’s a silly reason. Noticing this will help the child become aware of what they didn’t realize was irrational behavior!
3) don’t underestimate the power of separation. Sometimes kids need time to cool down in their own space, and that’s totally understandable!
4) hug and make up. This is important because it sets the two little fighters back on the right side. This can be a literal hug, or even a fun activity in which they collaborate!
How do I avoid the situation before it happens?
- look for warning signs. This can be rolling eyes, raised voices, tensed body language, or actual steam coming out of their ears (jk LOL)
- dance break! I found this is an amazing way to nip problems before they begin! Simply turn on your family’s favorite song and hit the dance floor. It doesn’t have to be anything crazy, just enough to make everyone relax and let off any steam.
What’s your favorite way to handle these sticky situations? Or what’s your family’s go-to dance break jam? •
Sending hugs. You got this!