Islam is a religion of peace. Through religious perspective, Domestic violence or violence of any kind for that matter is simply unacceptable. Period. There is no argument about it. However, due to some recent news about a case of domestic violence by an actor, I came across a weird opinion associated with it. The idea is that parents should spend their money on educating their daughters and making them financially strong, even married women should not be 'too dependent' on their husbands or husbands' money. Instead, they should try to remain financially independent so that if something goes wrong (read: if they become a victim of domestic abuse), they will be in a better position to part ways.
I found this stance quite disturbing. Allah gave husbands the job of providing for the family. It is their primary responsibility. How can a wife be not 'too dependent' on her husband? To make any relationship work, you have to give your 100%, I couldn't imagine the sincerity of efforts and level of mutual trust in the relationship with such a mindset where you anticipate and prepare beforehand for the possibility of domestic abuse. As muslims, it is a significant part of our faith to firmly believe in our fates ,our destinies (taqdeer or qadar). Whatever good or bad is written for us, is bound to happen and Allah, the Almighty is going to help us pass through it. Over planning is contradictory to our faith in destiny.
This is what I think, do you agree or disagree? Please feel free to share your opinions with due respect for my and other's point of view.