Why is change so hard? Change in itself can be dysregulating, even when we’re not living in a pandemic! And yet here we are having to make significant changes in the fundamental ways that we live, work, socialize, self-care and play. We may be undergoing changes in many areas all at once which can lead to feelings of overwhelm, a lack of agency, loss of control and for some feelings of powerlessness and helplessness. Depending on the internal and external resources available to us at this time, we may fall on different parts of this continuum. And yet if that’s not enough, for those who may have experienced trauma, this may be bringing up old memories and emotions of feeling alone, restricted, trapped, controlled, or the sense that one’s freedoms are being taken away (especially after working so hard to heal and create different experiences!)
For those of you who may be reexperiencing trauma symptoms or may be regressing to a previous self, you are not alone. What we are going through collectively is trauma. If this experience is reigniting past trauma, remember to be gentle with yourself. Gradually, feel into your body, honor and acknowledge your feelings, and experience the physical sensations as best you can. Remember that this is a process, that there is no race to get better or “get over this”, and that you can take all the time you need to fully feel, process and heal, and can move deeper as you experience more safety and stability, or have the mental and emotional capacity. This is a time to listen to your ever-changing needs, and do what feels right day to day. This may mean sleeping and resting more, engaging in gentle movement, stretching, verbalizing and naming your experience, sharing with others, deep breathing, crying, yelling, screaming, singing, shaking, dancing, journaling, or engaging in more rigorous physical activity to help with the movement of energy and activation. Remember, that whatever you may be experiencing is worthy of your attention and tending to it is a worthwhile use of your time and energy.
For those of you feeling dysregulated, I see you.
I know that you are doing the best you can. And that is enough.