The idea of feeling like an outsider and other is probably more common than many of us think.
We all may walk around believing that our otherness is not only what makes us unique (which is true on many levels) but also may keep us protected and isolated.
If you start believing your otherness is wrong (and I can tell you as a 48 year old, mixed race woman, I’ve believed my otherness was too loud and too much for a lot of my life), then all you are telling yourself and the world is that it is not okay for you to exist and then you’re all in protection mode, and protection mode is different in every person... This is about embracing all of what makes you you — all the pieces, not just the either / or all things fit in a neat tidy box category — especially here in American culture — you’re only one thing and if you identify as more than one thing in each important category like race, gender, sexuality, socioeconomics — any and all categories, then you are less than and beyond flawed.
Today, I am embracing my otherness and loving all of it and me. I am not here to please you and to fit in the box you want me to, so that you are never triggered.
I invite you to do the same AND to examine your triggers. I have found that most of my triggers are from beliefs that I don’t necessarily have but follow unconsciously (like always being overly nice and polite at the expense of my own needs, just because I was told to do so). Get curious about everything about you AND LOVE IT ALL.
Shaming yourself is not the answer. Embrace your otherness and all of you.
If you want to explore your otherness via writing, then join the Write for Well-Being Workshop this evening. All the writing prompts for this evening’s workshop center around this topic. Link in bio. ❤️