Feeling triggered by someone’s post, my post, a friend’s post, any post, THE WORLD?! That makes me happy to hear. Because emotions are the first sign post of what you are perceiving your reality to be. You’re feeling something? Good. That means you have some healing to do, or that you need to celebrate what you healed!
To explain this, let’s define what “a trigger” is. A trigger is a reminder of a past trauma. Past hurt. Think of it as a scab that keeps getting scratched. The reality is, it will keep being a trigger until you have walked through the muck and dealt with it. It is a load of bologna when we say “the past is in the past”, because the past is still very alive for many of us.
The real question is if you have or have not dealt with the past. If we were totally sane, we would respond to the present only on its own terms. But, we are human and that’s not how we operate.
We get triggered because we don't have a direct link with objective reality.
The triggering can happen so fast, there is no chance to observe the process and see the way in which we cede our powers of evaluation from present to past. Our minds are simply flooded with emotions and we may spiral into thoughts like “is this directed at me”, “why would they say that”, “I don’t understand” or “what a bitch!” The modern term of “being triggered” means that there is a VERY clear mirror in front of you. Slow it down when you begin to feel triggered. How did you get from point A to point B. Understand your emotions! They are they for a reason. What is not healed inside of you that you feel the situation is a reflection of you.
Most importantly, hold a mirror in front of you with a clear picture. See things as they are, but not worse than they are. Easier said than done, I know.
With love, Havilande